Apr 2021
What to Do When Your Spouse Is Spying on You
At the beginning of a relationship, it can be difficult to imagine your partner as anything other than supportive. Unfortunately, things don’t always turn out as we anticipate. A marital relationship can grow strained for a variety of reasons, and this can lead one or both spouses to engage in inappropriate behaviors.
If marital misconduct is suspected or discovered, or a divorce is taking place, one spouse may choose to spy on the other. In the age of technology, this has become increasingly easier to do. If you believe your spouse may be spying on you, use the guide below to deal with this invasion of privacy during divorce or in times of marital strife.
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Why Is Your Spouse Spying?
Do you suspect your spouse is spying on you? Maybe your partner has asked you whether you are hiding something or doesn’t seem to believe you when you deny their allegations. Your spouse may suspect you’re lying or engaging in bad behavior and want to know the truth, which they feel like they can’t get from asking you. Spouses spy on their partners for a number of reasons, such as:
- Looking for evidence of an affair: One of the most common reasons spouses spy is when they are looking for evidence of an affair. Their suspicions may be based on a recent change in your routine or on past displays of marital misconduct.
- Finding out whether you’re engaging in unethical behaviors: If your spouse suspects you may be stealing from your family business or spending more than you should, they may try to spy on you to monitor your behavior.
- Determining if you’re engaging in dangerous behaviors: Your spouse may spy on you to determine whether you are using drugs or alcohol or spending time with people who are a bad influence or dangerous, such as an ex.
- Acting on worries or suspicions: If your spouse has dealt with infidelity in past relationships, they may have trust issues and may be worried they could be cheated on again. If your partner has been cheated on before, that could spur their worries. Or your spouse could simply be more inclined toward suspicion.
- Determining whether you are working: Your spouse may suspect that you are not actually working and are only pretending to go to work. In this case, they may start spying on you. Alternatively, if you are going to school, your spouse may be spying to see whether you are actually going to your classes.
- Acting on feelings of insecurity: If your spouse is insecure, they may be looking for reassurance you are not lying or cheating. They may also be a controlling person, and knowing what you are up to can make them feel more secure and in control.
Types of Spying
How do you know if your spouse is spying on you? Potential invasions of privacy during a divorce or other relationship troubles may involve your partner:
- Following you
- Using GPS to track you or your car
- Monitoring your social media usage
- Bugging your home, car or phone
- Using video surveillance to watch you
- Hiring a private investigator to follow you
- Monitoring your phone calls, email, texts or mail
Sadly, spying on you may be easier than you might expect. Your spouse may not require any special skills or software to monitor your email, for example. If your devices aren’t password-protected, your spouse could check your email on your smartphone or computer. Even if your devices are password-protected, your spouse may be able to guess your password, or you may have previously shared that information with them.
A spouse can also install spyware on your phone or computer that allows them to monitor your emails remotely, along with the websites you are visiting. Your spouse can install a program on your phone to view your call history, texts and GPS location, as well.
How to Protect Your Privacy During Divorce
With concerns that your partner is spying on you, you may want to take some steps to protect your privacy during the divorce process or other relationship troubles.
Change Your Passwords
To ensure your sensitive information is protected online, you should regularly change your passwords. Create new passwords to your email, bank and social media accounts. Change your related security questions, as well, as your spouse may be able to guess the answers to those questions.
Install Home Video Surveillance and Security Cameras
If you believe your spouse is physically spying on you, you may want to install video surveillance and security cameras. At Silent Guardian Technical Solutions, we install home security systems in Nassau County, Suffolk County and New York City. Because we are a local company, we understand the needs of homes in Long Island, New York.
You might be worried about the appearance of video surveillance cameras, but rest assured. Our video camera arrangements may be visible, but they’re not obtrusive. So if someone is considering breaking into your home, they’ll spot the cameras, but your guests will barely notice them or may overlook them altogether.
Utilize Technical Surveillance Counter-Measure Services
Are you wondering, “Did my spouse bug my house during our divorce?” You may want to utilize our technical surveillance counter-measures (TSCM). With our services, we use electronic counter-surveillance or bug-sweeping, which can detect whether surveillance hazards or devices are present. Our trained professionals can conduct a systematic electronic and physical examination of the area to discover security weaknesses, eavesdropping devices or security hazards.
Your personal information could be vulnerable to an unauthorized person or hacker through phone calls, texts, emails, photos, webcams and secret audio and video. With TSCM services, you can determine whether your spouse is spying on you and take action.
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